Here’s a teaser of our tips …
1. Be You. Only Better
As much as we know you want your profile to not only aptly represent you, but differentiate you from ALL others, we still recommend being wholly and honestly yourself in it. In other words, don’t be who you think others want you to be or who you wish you were. However, if you are, for example, a bad speller or a bit careless, use this opportunity to be yourself, only better-er.
2. Get Clear about What You Want
First step in writing/righting your profile is to make sure you know exactly what you want. Sure, you know what you don’t want, but before you write your profile and post it––get honest about what matters most to you. How? Know your 3H’s criteria. Your 3 whats? Your Head, Heart and Hoo-ha: the three critical voters inside each of us that each have an equal say if a person is our person or not. Your Head is interested in what looks good on paper, i.e. where they live, what they do for a living, do they have kids or want them, etc. Your Heart cares if you have similar interests, religious and political beliefs, trust, and respect, etc. Your Hoo-ha wants to ensure there’s chemistry, i.e. do you find them attractive, hot, sexy, cute, twinkly? Are they your desert island pick? In the profile itself, you certainly don’t have to list out everything you want, but you need to have it in mind as you write the right ad for your ideal.
3. Make Sure Your Profile TRULY Matches Your Dream
Once you know your true and fair 3H’s list, make sure your profile matches it. For example, if you are looking for the love of your life, the last first date you will ever go on, do NOT write in your profile that you’re looking for possible friendship, a partner in crime and/or someone to travel and dance with. One is a playmate, the other a soul mate. The man or woman that gets turned off by your admission of your ideal, ain’t YOUR person.
… and there’s more where that came from. What? We never promised we weren’t a CT (coaching tease)! Get the full scoop on “righting” your profile here.
Finally — we’re ready to put our money where our mouth is when it comes to coaching on love, dating, and relationships. That’s why I’m joining my sister Lauren Handel Zander this Friday at 4 pm for our FIRST Facebook Live: Love is in the
Where ? Air on the @HGLifeCoaching Facebook channel. And we’re taking questions NOW for this special live event. So send me one and all of your questions, from what to put in your profile to how to have difficult conversations to when to pop the question. Lauren and I will have answers for you.